The habit of calm when you're feeling frustrated

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This article by Leo Babauta is about how to deal with getting frustrated when they feel overloaded, and then shutting down or lashing out.

This probably sounds familiar to some of us. We feel overloaded, and then maybe lash out at someone in frustration and anger.

This comes from the hope that things will be calm, orderly, simple, solid, and under control. The world doesn’t comply with this hope, however, as it is chaotic, disorder, constantly changing, never fixed, groundless. So we get frustrated, angry at others, and feel anxiety.

The article then describe how to create a habit of calm:

  • Catch your habitual pattern as early as you can
  • Practice how to drop into the body
  • Use newfound space to connect to the other person (Maybe you’ve responded to their frustration with frustration of your own)
  • find an appropriate, compassionate response

Read original article how to practice above in more detail. Immeasurably it is more helpful to do these practices than to lash out, which hurts not only the other person, but yourself as well. Great stuff!

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